Sunday, July 31, 2016

Bald is Bold


For some reason there’s a stigma that comes with bald men: We all have low self-esteems about it.







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Last Friday I was drinking with some bar buds and they made cracks, "You're bald," "You’d be better with women if you had hair," et cetera.

Gave 'em this kind of gaze:
 

My friends cackled as if they had me there or something. No worries, I dissed them too. It’s what guys do in groups for good fun. 

Point is, however, to make jabs at me my pals decided to go after something I genuinely don’t care about; because they have this misconception that all bald guys hate not having hair. For me it’s quite the opposite.

My journey started when I was twenty-six years old. I had complained to my brother about character defects of mine and added, “What’s next, I start losing my hair?”

I laughed. My brother didn’t join. Instead, he dramatically touched my shoulder, “Actually your hair is thinning in the back.”

The guy acted as if he’d just told me I had a fatal disease.

First I denied it was happening at all. Then more people made comments about my hairloss. For example, I saw a guy with a Mohawk and said to a friend, “I could grow one of those. Give myself a cool new image.”

“Not with what you’ve got going in the back,” he replied. “You should shave it off,” was his unsolicited advice.

I ignored him, thought he was just picking on me. No way I was losing my sacred hair. 

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When I was seventeen my hair touched my shoulder blades and still would if I wanted it to do so. 

(Late '90s)

I got it cut short at twenty to look more professional. 

(early 2000s)

But I wore newsboy caps all the time and walked around in the rain without an umbrella. Plus, I smoked for fifteen years.

To my knowledge, there’s no scientific proof that any of those factors cause baldness, but there's far and wide speculation. Anyway, I took my hair for granted and started to pay the price without realizing what was going on.

(2011)

When I did notice perhaps a little . . . tiny . . . minor . . . miniscule bit of thinning, I tried to save my hair, pleading for tips from family and friends on how to keep my precious where it was. 

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My hair was so rad others would ask for treatment tips. 

Reflecting, it was actually too pretty for a guy as manly as myself.

 
(2012)

Nonetheless, I tried to save my waves in demanding from my doctor prescriptions to save it. 

I then spent hundreds of dollars for two years on baldness prevention products. 

Even then, I denied that my hair was actually thinning.

 
(Early 2013: smoking a Cuban in Costa Rica)

At 30, I got a terrible haircut and yelled at the dude who mutilated my precious because he went shorter than I'd ever had it. But I still paid and tipped out of guilt for my attitude. I was truly upset because that was the first time I saw for myself what was happening to me.

 
(Late 2013)

January 19, 2014, I turned 31 and went clothes shopping. There I was, in the changing room, with mirrors on all three walls and finally got a good look at the back of my head. Indeed, I had begun to form what’s known as a balding crown. And I was much like the Naked King, because it became obvious to everyone except me.



So I went to the nearest clipper joint. 

My intention was to get my hair short enough so to make the thinning appear unnoticeable. 

Only no matter how short the poor stylist trimmed my dead cells, it was clear I was still losing stuff up top. 

Told her, “Shave it all off.”
Never seen someone so terrified. “Are you sure, sir?”
“It’ll grow back if I don’t like bald, right?”
“Um, I think so,” she replied not so reassuringly.
“It’s only hair. Do it.”

You know what, my head’s never looked so good. I was meant to be bald. It’s now difficult to wear newsboy caps, for which I once never went without, because I enjoy showing off what I’ve got.

\(2008-12)


(2014-15)

Yet for some reason people think it’s negative that I don’t have a head of flourishing hair. If I wear a hat, friends of mine assume it’s because I want to hide the fact that I’m bald. Most notably, someone asked, “Did you wear that cap the other day because you’re embarrassed about, you know, being bald?”

“No, it’s because I’m freaking cold up there sometimes.”

My brother made a wish—he’d trade hairstyles if it were possible because he views baldness as a problem.

“But, I love being bald.”

Shaving's also fun now. I went all out and bought a special badger brush and a Heavy Duty Double Bladed Safety Razor for guys like me who are serious about what they use to shave.

These days, instead of people asking me how I got my hair to look so good, they say, “Bald looks amazing on you.”

Plus, there are studies that say men lose their hair because they have tons of testosterone, which leads to longevity during intercourse. Meaning statistically, as a bald man, I last longer in the sack than your average guy with radiant hair. 

Sorry folks, but what’s there to have a low self-esteem about in this case?

Want to talk about how women feel about bald men, as my friends did the other day? 

Survey says women generally find bald guys attractive. 


 

Talking the Mister Clean style shave, not Crown and Glory. 
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Word on the street is a lack of confidence is a turnoff, not a cleanly shaven head.

There’s a lot about my looks I’d change if possible. 

Being bald isn’t one of them. 

Personally, I’m stoked to be in the same club as bros like 
Patrick Stewart

Vin Diesel
Bruce Willis
Jason Statham , and basically the entire male cast of Breaking Bad

 To top it off, one of my greatest mentors happens to be bald. For this reason, I correlate baldness as a positive trait.


Future reference to my bar buds, et al: If you’re going to tease me about something, bald bashing is only confusing—as there’s nothing wrong with having a shaved head. 

Remember to remember,
~BAM
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10 comments:

  1. Don't forget The Rock! Busting on you about your bald head is not your insecurity, it's theirs. If you look closely, they all probably have a little thinning going on too.

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  2. Bald looks excellent on you! I guess my equivalent as a chick is the assumption that I want big boobs - ha! No thanks!! I love the way I am and wouldn't change it for the world. No painful wire bras and all that palaver for me. It's nice to feel good in your own skin, I'm glad not to be a sexy stereotype. (-8

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    1. Stereotypes are boring. Thanks for stopping by.

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  3. I am a girl so I can't relate but I am glad you can be appreciative of your bald hair. I do agree people look at it as a negative, when it really isn't a bad thing at all! Always love being who you are even when people disagree! :)

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  4. I like your many hair stages! Thank you for this entertaining post! You look good with your hair shaved and I am glad it is fun, too!

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    1. Glad you liked the stages. It wasn't easy to find all of those pictures. It felt great to reflect.

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  5. I'd add actor Ed Harris to the list. Hot and bald. Go for it. you look great and look like you are owning it. That's the important part of anything in life!

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    1. Much appreciated. And Ed Harris is a fantastic actor.

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